What to ask for as a Wedding Gift
You did it, you’re Getting Married! There are a million and one things on your mind so what to ask for as a gift is probably toward the bottom of the list. However, you’re still going to eventually have to ask yourself “What do we put on our wedding list?”. Whatever you do, make sure you’re asking for these items as wedding gifts.
What to put on a wedding gift list
You’ve finally done it. You summoned all of your courage, got down on one knee and asked the person you love to spend the rest of your lives together. Now that all of that stress is out of the way, you might think you’re basically in the clear from any other stress. Well, I hate to break it to you, but you couldn’t be more wrong.
Truth be told, wedding planning is full of stress. Between the endless number of things to do, decisions to make and how much everything costs, wedding planning is an enormous trigger for a mental breakdown.
Right about now you are probably thinking to yourself that this is the exact reason why you’ll have minimal involvement in wedding planning. After all, your fiancé has probably been planning this moment since she was little, so why interfere? Again, wrong.
Not helping out in the planning of the big day will only cause more problems. It is your wedding and post-marital life too. Plus, by putting all or most of the decision making on your fiancé, you are only causing her more stress that can negatively impact your relationship, which let’s face it, no one wants.
One seemingly small part of wedding planning that is actually quite a big deal is making your wedding registry. If you’re not familiar, this is basically a list of gifts you are suggesting for your guests to buy for your wedding that you will use in your post-wedding life.
Keep these tips in mind to make you’re a pro when it comes time to start deciding on what you want to register for:
- Make it fun: Spending hours shopping without actually making a purchase might sound like actual hell to you. Come up with a way to reward yourself for making it through the day. With every store or every hour you make it through, treat yourself to a coffee, snack or something relaxing to look forward to later. You can also treat the time like a date and end the outing with a nice dinner for just the two of you.
- Add both of your names: This is super important. If there is one thing you absolutely need to remember to do, it is adding both of your names to the registry. Her friends and family will likely search her name, while your friends and family will search for yours. Your guests need to be able to find your registry in order to know what you want, otherwise you’re almost guaranteeing they’re going to go rogue and get you whatever they want.
- Take stock of what you have: Whether or not you already live with your significant other, you absolutely need to go through the items you already own. I mean who needs two Instant Pot’s? Duplicate items are so unnecessary and will only cause clutter that can stress you out (it really is a vicious cycle).
- Think of a few dream items: The best part of a registry is that the possibilities are endless. The limit truly does not exist. That doesn’t mean we’re advocating going nuts of anything, but adding a couple of reach items is totally acceptable.
- Be ready to make compromises: Ah yes, there’s that word which seems to be synonymous with relationships. It is true though, you have to be ready for them especially when doing something like this. There will be items she wants but you don’t and vice versa. And then there will be items where you have to choose a color or pattern. Stay strong man.
Now that you’ve done all the prep work, it’s time for the main event (a.k.a. shopping).
The “Fun” Part
You’re finally ready to start registering! Make sure you’re including these items:
New Bed Set
This is the first item on the list because it is extremely important. While you might think that the bed you already have is fine, remember that you’re getting married and plan to spend the rest of your lives together; that means it is time for a fresh start.
If you’ve had your bed for awhile, take a moment to think about everything that it has been through and seen—I’ll wait.
You don’t want your new wife to have to think about, let alone sleep on that. And unless in the time you two have been together she’s gotten a new mattress or you have been together since high school with no breaks, you don’t want to be thinking about everything her bed has seen either.
Now, when we say you should register for a new bed set, we mean virtually everything should be replaced. The necessities include upgrading your mattress, pillows and new, clean, untarnished bedsheets.
Score major points by insisting that you include a few customizable items on your registry. These types of items are very sentimental and suggesting them lets your sweet and emotional side shine.
But really, these types of gifts are very personal and the type of thing that the people closest to you will buy because of the meaning behind it.
While she adds things like a welcome mat and decorative sign with the family name you now share, you can say that you’d like a gift basket with an engraved bottle of your favorite spirit. Go the extra mile by saying it can be something you save for a special wedding anniversary.
Whether or not you’re a coffee drinker (if you aren’t I honestly don’t know how you survive the day) this is an important one to add.
If you do drink coffee, you likely have a machine you love and that makes your perfect cup. That’s great. But is it easy to use?
Remember you’re married now, and married people do things like have the in-laws stay overnight. The last thing you want is to be woken up at the crack of dawn because your guests can’t figure out how to use your coffee machine. Save your sanity, and a likely early run to buy a new machine, and register for a simple and easy-to-use coffee pot.
Ancestry/Health Analysis Kit
So this one may shock you, but hear me out for a second. While the main purpose of the DNA testing kits is to connect you to your heritage, they offer an additional service that looks at your health traits and suggest what you should keep an eye on health wise.
While it won’t prevent or guarantee anything, it’s always good to be aware of what you’re at a higher risk of and take preventative measures.
The ancestry part is also a fun tool that you and your spouse can use to create a physical family tree as a decoration in your home. Plus, if you have kids, you’ll have concrete information and visuals to answer any questions they’ll have.
Getting married means you’re a whole new level of adult, so no more stocking liquor bottles in random cabinets and displaying empty bottles like trophies. While the thought of that may make you sad, cringe or even roll your eyes, it does open a whole new realm of possibilities.
Introducing: your very own bar (cue the wide eyed stare that children have in Toys R Us…oh wait…).
Anyway, registering for a home bar will give you a place to store all of your alcohol. Plus you can become a bonafide bartender by learning to make new concoctions and experiment. Just in case you’re having a hard time selling your fiancé on this one, tell her to think of all the entertaining you two can do at your home all while looking like successful adults who have their lives together.
I could not let you leave without recommending one of our awesome BroBaskets to that wedding gift list. We have awesome customizable options that make great wedding gifts for him and her. These days most couples already live together and have a home and a bunch of stuff already, but what you can always use more of is booze! Plus you are going to need to fully stock that bar you just got.
Last, but certainly not least, is money. Cash. Moolah. Dinero. Whatever you want to call it, they say cash is king for a reason and it is more than likely what most people will gift you for your wedding.
Make the process easier for everyone by setting up a cash fund and connecting it to your registry. That way they don’t need to remember a card and you don’t have to worry about how you’ll get the cards home when all you want to do is begin your honeymoon.
Speaking of, you can designate the cash fund for certain things like your honeymoon or buying a new home. That way your guests can know what their gift is going towards.
The Actual Fun Part
Everyone loves gifts. Make sure you and your fiancé are both happy with what gifts you’re receiving by creating a wedding registry. Making sure you’re a part of the process, not only for this but for all parts of wedding planning, takes the burden off of your fiancé and ensures that it’ll be a day both of you will never forget. And it’s never too early to remember: happy wife, happy life.
We hope you enjoyed this quick list of awesome items to add to your wedding registry, let us know your thoughts or any ideas you have in the comments bellow.