The Ultimate Groom Wedding Checklist
Getting married can be tough, there are umteen million things to think about and do before, during, and after the wedding, who can track all of that?! Do not worry my friend, we are here to help with our ultimate groom wedding checklist to get you through your big day
Groom Wedding Checklist
Grooms to be – where you at?! We’ve all (maybe) seen the reality TV shows about bridezillas, and there’s certainly a tremendous emphasis on all things bridal. While all the attention given to your better half is, of course, paramount, preparation for the groom on his big day sometimes becomes an afterthought. Where do we start? There can be many looming questions for the groom himself to ponder, and sometimes guidance is few and far between. But fear not, bros, help is here. We have assembled the quintessential wedding checklist for the stylish, savvy groom to make sure getting hitched goes off without a hitch, see what we did there.
Wedding Planning for the Groom
Having a plan is nice, isn’t it? Because as they always say; if you fail to plan, then plan to fail. There are certain events where flying by the seat of your pants can work, (ever been to Vegas?) but most weddings definitely need to be well thought out and carefully planned.
First, have a good long conversation with your fiancée about what your expectations are for the wedding. Do you want a subtle, intimate ceremony attended by your immediate family and closest friends? Or do you want to outdo Prince Harry and Meghan Markle in a luxurious affair? But a fair word of advise, people that spend a lot on weddings get divorced at higher rates, don’t go into debt for a big party for you friends and family.
These are great details to ascertain in the first preliminary discussion – that way you both are on the same page for expectations. Once you decide, you can focus on booking the venue, which can vary from an old church, to a beachside somewhere sunny, or your uncles bitchin back yard! Be sure to account for your guests accessibility should you choose an extravagant locale, not everyone can drop a small fortune to attend your dream wedding in Bali. After you figure out the venue and the day, you can begin sending those invites and looking into things like; catering, entertainment, and, of course, your wedding party.
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Certain studies have suggested that women are better at multitasking than men, so gentlemen, time to learn! In the time leading up to the ceremony, you will have to divide your time between event planning and getting yourself ready for the big day. When assembling your crew as groomsmen, it can definitely be tough – too many great people to fill only a few spots. A few things to consider when assembling your wedding party are:
- Do you have any brothers? These can be a great choice for best man depending on your relationship
- Close friends – any lifelong grade school pals who you’ve passed every milestone of maturity with? Surely you’ll want them there
- Newer friends who you’re close on a daily basis with
- Have any of your friends had you in their wedding? (more important for women)
No one can pick your party but you, and don’t get too hung up on being exclusionary – your friends will all be happy for this joyous occasion in your life. Do not overlook the necessity to give these gents a gift; after all, they are throwing you your bachelor party! (Or at least they should be) When thinking of the gift for your groomsmen, consider their likes and interest. Some surefire gifts include a drink set, complete tumbler, glass, and beverage accessories, a humidor with a commemorative wedding cigar, or even a set of headphones! You know what your friends like, just don’t forget to grab ‘em something!
Now, for the groom himself. Many men decide to use the time leading up the ceremony as a window to better themselves – both physically and mentally. Maybe you’ll find your way back to the free weights at the local gym, or dig that bike out of the garage and take it for a spin. The old adage “health is wealth” is very true, so it’s best to get on top of it while you have the chance! Plus you’ll be looking like a million bucks in a tailored, custom tux! If you’ve been out of the swing of things for a while, ease back into exercise gently – try some brisk cardio and light lifting, but do not over do it as consistency is more important than anything. You’ll be amazed out how quickly your body gets back into shape; muscle memory is a real thing!
An issue a lot of men face when getting up there in their mid-to-late 20s and early 30s is the thinning of hair. While some men are unaffected by this follicular exodus, many can suffer from anxiety and feelings of embarrassment. Male pattern baldness is very common, with nearly 85% of men aged 50 or older experiencing some degree of hair loss. However, with changes in the medical field, there are now options for men with thinning hair, to combat the process, and even potentially restore their hair. Through treatments of Finasteride (AKA Propecia), along with the utilization of thickening shampoos enriched with ingredients to reduce DHT (the hormone that causes hair loss), hair loss can be slowed, and some men even experience the regrowth of hair! Be advised that this process does not happen overnight, so it is important to begin your treatment several months out before the wedding.
Like Tom Landry preparing his 1977 Cowboys for their eventual Super Bowl XII victory, a reference that probilby went way over your whipper snapper had, you’ve been attentively working hard to get ready for the big day – and now it has arrived. It is wedding day. When you wake up in the morning, make sure you take the necessary steps to look and feel your best; it’s your day after all. Have yourself a solid breakfast, brew a bit of coffee, and beginning your routine. If you need to squeeze daily exercise, you’ll want to get it in in the morning, but try not to overdo it – you don’t want to be so worn out that you’re falling asleep in your salad at the reception. After you feel the burn and get those endorphins going, it’s time to prepare yourself to be stylin’!
As you jump in the shower, be sure to know what you need to look your best. Do you rock a clean shave? If so, be sure to exfoliate your face in order to open those pores and prep your skin for a tight, clean cut. If the Grizzly Adams look is what you sport, make sure you hit that beard with some conditioner. When you get out and towel off, consider using a moisturizing lotion to keep your skin looking hydrated and smooth – nobody wants their face glaring like the mid-July sun reflecting off a chrome bumper! If you’re a fragrance man, apply it after you get out of the shower. This way, you won’t be applying the cologne directly to your clothes, and the fragrance will have some time to “settle in” on your skin. The best spot to apply is your neck, and remember, a little goes a long way.
When it comes time to link up with your groomsmen and don your tuxedos, always try and look out for one another. We don’t want any belt loops missed, cufflinks incorrectly worn, or – heaven forbid – anyone wearing suspenders and a belt. Should you wear a bowtie, maybe consider selecting one you can tie yourself. The pre-tied bow ties can look a bit lame, whereas the ones you tie yourself can add a touch of personality to your ensemble. Another fun idea is to wear matching socks and/or sunglasses with your wedding party, which can offer another flavor of pizzazz and also demonstrate your solidarity with the guys! (BONUS – They double as groomsman gifts)
Big pro-tip here: Do not drink too much, before, during or after your wedding. One of the number one reasons people do not “consummate” their marriage on their wedding night is that one partner or both are too drunk and/or sleepy to get it in. So like most things in life, moderation is your friend, try to keep the pre-game to a minimum and the wedding shots for another day, trust me.
As you stand at the altar, hand-in-hand with your partner, you will be feeling a multitude of different things. Aside from love and extreme euphoria, you can take pride in the confidence you’re exuding, due to your incredibly dapper appearance, and the gratification of the wedding planning coming to fruition! Until death do you part, you will always remember your special day, and people will remember it for years to come!
We hope that this post has prepared you a least a little bit for the big day. Let us know your thoughts and/or any great groom wedding checklist ideas you have.
The Guys @ TheBroBasket.com